We have all been there. Your new, sweet, amazingly wonderful baby wakes up several times during the night. As a mommy, especially a new mommy, you are completely exhausted and let’s face it…frustrated.
You love this child fiercely, but my goodness how nice it would be if they would just SLEEP! And we all know mama needs her some sleep too!
Y’all I’m so excited to introduce you to Pachi Parra. She is a Pediatric Sleep Consultant, and I am happy to have her do a guest post for us today.
Pachi is also super duper sweet, and has served as a nanny for many years. She has the expertise and patience to answer any questions you may have. Pachi is also offering a free 15 minute consultation with us mommies!
Gift of sleep
Why won’t my baby sleep?
I bet you often ask this question. Maybe even in a sweet voice, or in a pleading voice,maybe in an angry voice, but no matter how many times you asked, if you are reading this you probably never got the answer.
You may feel like you can not take it anymore. Your baby just would not stay asleep and you hit rock bottom, exhausted from waking up multiple times every night and having to soothe him back to sleep.
When our babies don’t sleep well, we tend to look for an explanation. We think it might be teething or gas. We worry that she’s too small and she needs to eat in the night, or he’s too big and he needs to eat more or he won’t feel full. The list goes on and on.
Are any of these explanations the real truth? Sometimes. But barring those times when your child has a burning fever or a new tooth coming in, the real reason most babies won’t sleep or stay asleep is that they just haven’t learned how.
We all have strategies that help us make the journey into sleep each night. We have bedtime routines that we tend to do without really thinking about it, and we do these things because they help us transition from the busyness of our day to a restful sleep.
Most of us have a favorite position on the bed that we turn to when we feel sleep about to come. Some of us need a glass of water beside the bed, some need white noise or music, others can’t sleep without the window open. Some need a cup of herbal tea, and some have to read for ten minutes…Whatever the differences might be, these are all sleep strategies, and without them we’d have trouble drifting off.
The same goes for babies. Many parents who haven’t developed a sleeping strategy for their babies will complain that their child can only fall asleep with the bottle, or while breastfeeding, or while being rocked or patted.
While this might be true, the trouble is, by offering these props, parents are creating a situation where their babies are dependent on something external to help them sleep. And that’s why they don’t sleep well.
Night waking is very common in babies who have not learned to sleep properly and are relying on a prop. When they wake up and the prop isn’t there to put them back to sleep, they have to wake up fully and cry in order to be soothed back to sleep. It’s not personal, Mom and Dad… they haven’t made it their personal mission to wake you up ten times a night. They just have no idea how to go to sleep without your help.
Luckily there is hope. There are lots of ways to give your child the tools she needs to be able to sleep independently, even from a very young age. Babies are capable of sleeping through the night, and learning those skills young will help make bedtimes and nighttime relatively hassle-free.
A well-rested child is a happier, healthier child. And a well-rested parent is healthier and happier too!
If you would like to know more about HOW to give your child the tools I mentioned about and give YOURSELF the gift of sleep, schedule now your FREE 15 minutes evaluation call HERE: https://calendly.com/pachiconsultant/free_evaluation
I want to say a big thank you to Pachi! I hope this helps to ease your mind and anxiety about why your baby might not be sleeping through the night.
Much love to you mamas, and know that you got this! XO